“One looks back with appreciation to the brilliant teachers, but with gratitude to those who touched our human feelings. The curriculum is so much necessary raw material, but warmth is the vital element for the growing plant and for the soul of the child.” – Carl Jung
Yesterday I finished an article which is a contribution to a volume in honor of my Professor/mentor/boss on the occasion of his “official retirement”. I am a lucky person, I come across a professor who truly shapes my life. I have evolved and improved so much as a human being under his guidance. Truth is I have learned one thing with him: Integrity. More than honesty. A state of being whole, undiminished, entire.
I have the feeling that when we start to age (and even before, but in a much less determined way), what is important in relationships with people has more and more to do with goodness and integrity. I stay away from people I cannot trust. I avoid people who don’t have the capacity to be true. Even if each of us has our own path, and first we need to find for ourselves the trueness, without expecting anybody else to bring it on to us. Still, if we cross paths with certain people in our lives, isn’t better if they are also honest, true and good to us.
In Vietnamese, I remember when I was a kid there was a proverb: If you stay close to the light, after a while, you will shine. If you play with the ink, your hands will turn black.
Today I swear to myself, I would only be with people whose goodness and integrity would dazzle me, would rub off on me, sooner or later. And this, in any kind of relationships, from love to friendship. I would walk away from darkness, meanness. And all twisted minds.
My life at work is illuminated everyday by such a good and honest person, my Professor.
My sentimental life should be the same. From today.